I didn’t know what I didn’t know!
But I do know now!
Have you ever been at a point in your life where you follow ALL the things, don’t question the ‘experts’, and just go with the direction others are TELLING you is the best way?
That is what I did with my first pregnancy and by the end of that experience I was an angry and bitter woman who had been bullied for months and never given the opportunity to enjoy the journey of becoming a mom..
I gave in to the bullying, I caved and scheduled a c-section that I now know was highly unnecessary…...all because I trusted “the experts”.
I felt robbed. Robbed of being able to enjoy growing and nurturing a baby in my womb. Robbed of meeting my baby while listening to my playlist, seeing her face the moment she was born, THE GOLDEN HOUR, and being able to hold her and move around postpartum. Robbed of the beautiful experience of labor and delivery.
I felt like I had failed at something that should have been natural, beautiful, and a wonderful time in every woman’s life. Women are created to create and nurture new life in their womb and to birth that new life into this world!!!
Then I realized I didn’t fail, THE MEDICAL SYSTEM failed me!!
My doctor failed me by following her strict and generic protocols that she follows for every patient. On top of that she never focused on the blessing that was happening in my womb but chose to belittle me over my weight gain throughout my pregnancy. At just 4 months pregnant she started talking about a scheduled c-section based solely on my weight gain, no medical issues at all and NO evidence-based decision making. Through all of this I felt defeated every time I had to go to an appointment and hear the discouragement that she pushed on me.
Although I didn’t plan to have more children due to the trauma of our experience, God had other plans. I started to research and learn, for myself, more about the process of conceiving, how to care for one’s self throughout conception, pregnancy, and postpartum. And learned how to avoid things that would lead to a possible scheduled or even emergency c-section during labor and delivery.
What I found was eye-opening and I vowed to share about what I have learned and be a voice to others because women deserve to be informed and empowered advocates for themselves, and to AVOID experiencing what I went through.
We now have 4 children and my experience with the other 3 pregnancies have been completely different than the first one. I can now say that I have had 3 empowered homebirths (HBAC) where we chose who was with us, how I would labor and deliver, and what tests and procedures I would or wouldn’t be doing.
Can you say HEALING!!!! EMPOWERING!!!! EXHILARATING!!!!
By having knowledge on your side you are able to take a leading role in your own care and ultimately design the pregnancy, labor, and delivery YOU want!!
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